Betsy is coming to visit Alisa and I in Minneapolis this weekend! We’re hoping to have several productive writing sessions while she’s here so stay tuned for some more exciting blog posts next week!
In the meantime, here’s one of my stories…
My parents were very worried about the three of us doing this trip. One of their biggest fears was that the strangers we met along the way would hurt us. By the end of our trip, my parents had a very different view of “strangers.” Especially after it was the kindness of people we barely knew who made it possible for me to get home for my Grandfather’s funeral.
I found out the day we left Vicksburg, MS. We pedaled for a few hours and had just reached the point of intersection of this journey with our previous bicycle trip. At Port Gibson, we would get onto the Natchez Trace and follow the route we had done during our senior year of college. At our stop in Port Gibson I turned on my cell phone and had a voicemail and a text message from my mom. I knew something was wrong. I called her and she told me that my Grandpa had died that morning. A whirlwind of emotions went through me. Immediate sadness of course. The last time I talked to my Grandpa, a week or so earlier, he said, “see you when you get home.” And I was so looking forward to seeing him and telling him all about our trip. Then, I thought about the situation. What the hell was I going to do? Would it even be possible for me to get home? Should I go home? Should I stay and finish the trip? Should I try to go home and come back to finish the trip? What would Alisa and Betsy want? Would they finish the trip without me? A million questions went through my head, but I think I knew all along that I wanted to be home for the funeral if that was possible. I wanted to be with my family, and I wanted to be able to say goodbye.
Alisa and Betsy were so supportive. They were willing to talk things through and consider all the options. Ironically, we sat down in a cemetery to discuss the situation. We had been told to find this certain cemetery in Port Gibson. One that was very old and very beautiful. There were huge trees will gorgeous blankets of moss draping the branches. It wasn’t a sad place, in fact, it was lovely. And the perfect calming spot to sort through our thoughts. We decided to at least push to Natchez State Park, our destination for the day. From there we would make phone calls and try to figure things out.
The ride that day was a quiet one. I had a hundred different thoughts going through my head all the time but wasn’t in the mood to talk. And we were also thinking about our previous journey, remembering different things that happened along our route, and thinking about the other folks who made that journey with us.
When we arrived at the State Park we set up camp and the phone calls began. Technology is an amazing thing. We used our cell phones to access people who could access the internet. Alisa’s dad was put in charge of looking up flights and getting us phone numbers for different airlines that flew out of Baton Rouge, the closest city with an airport. I was on the phone with my family, trying to gauge what they wanted me to do and finding out funeral details. We got out our maps and tried to figure out how soon we could get to Baton Rouge by bicycle and how the route might have to change. Our friends Jess and Maria were looking up different ways to ship bicycles. I decided that YES I wanted to go home, and YES I wanted to come back. We brainstormed all sorts of different options, and finally arrived at the best one. It was a long shot, IF everything worked out exactly how we needed it to this could work…
I would try to get a round trip flight out of Baton Rouge. I would need to find a way to get myself AND my bicycle there. And pedaling wasn’t an option, too little time. Alisa and Betsy would continue to ride for the next couple days and change the route to take them through Baton Rouge. They would need to find a place to stay there where they would then wait for me to fly back, and we would finish the ride together, just two more days of riding into New Orleans.
I REALLY wanted this plan to work because I wanted to go home and finish the ride too. We still had three weeks to spend in New Orleans, after all.
Carl and Shirley Howell, the farmers we had stayed with the week before happened to call that night. They had received Alisa’s absentee ballot and were calling about that. Alisa filled them in on our situation, and Shirley (who can be extremely dramatic) reacted immediately. “CARL, CARL!!! We need to get the truck right now and go pick up those girls in Natchez! Sarah’s grandfather died and she needs to get to an airport TONIGHT!” Alisa calmed Shirley down, telling her that plans were still in the works and we would keep them posted if we needed them. She told them about our tentative Baton Rouge plan, and Shirley immediately started thinking about possible contacts in Baton Rouge. With promises to call them as we made our plans, Alisa left Shirley making phone calls to try to find us rides and places to stay in Baton Rouge, and promising that they would help us any way they could, including driving me to an airport.
Shirley soon put us in touch with Irene, the lovely woman who interviewed us on the radio. She had family in Baton Rouge that was willing to help us out and she was working on getting me a ride.
Using the phone numbers that Alisa’s dad had found for us, I called several airports searching for a round trip flight that I could afford. There were two airlines that offered “bereavement fares” and one that had flights that would work for me so I booked it hoping that the ride situation would work itself out.
The next morning we packed up, rearranged our things so that Alisa and Betsy would have all the gear they needed, and we pedaled 10 miles into Natchez. I knew a ride would pick me up there, but I didn’t yet know who it would be. The other girls still had a long day of riding ahead, 80 more miles, so they continued on their way. It turned out that Irene wasn’t able to secure a ride for me, so I called the Howells again, who had been standing by the whole time to make sure we were taken care of. Carl said, “No problem, I’m coming to get you, and I’ll take you and your bike to Baton Rouge.” So, he proceeded to drive 2 hours to pick me up in Natchez, and then another 1.5 hours to get to Baton Rouge where I was meeting Irene’s brother, David. Then, Carl had to drive all the way back home. He wouldn’t even take gas money. All this he did out of pure kindness and generosity. He had only known me for one week and yet treated me like family. I know my parents would’ve made that drive, and my closest friends, but someone I had just met? I felt incredibly blessed.
Then we have David and Stephanie, the folks we stayed with in Baton Rouge. They had NEVER met us and agreed to take us in. They kept my bicycle at their house and waited for the other girls to arrive. They brought me to the airport and picked me up a few days later. My flight home was at 5:30 am. David got up at 3:30 am to bring me to that early morning flight! Why would someone do that for a person they don’t even know? It was the ultimate example of what we learned all along our ride. In the words of Robert Kelley, “99.9% of people are good.” I’ll never be one to argue with that statement, and I think my parents are more convinced of its truth too.